When people ask this sort of “how do I know if…†question, it usually means one of two things: you want the thing to be true, e.g. you want to have a fetish, or you don’t want the thing to be true, that is, you...
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Is consensual non-consensual sex (e.g. choking or rape fantasy) anti-feminist? Then, if you enjoy the “consensual rapist†role, does that mean that you have rapist tendencies? Short answer: not necessarily. I firmly believe that no fantasies or consensual play are inherently bad, by whatever moral/ethical standards you’re...
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My turn to kiss your feet, right? Depends on a few factors, namely, what kind of relationship are you in and how important is the power exchange aspect to you. (Also: how did you get to the point where you’re calling him...
View MoreWe are all just here to have some fun! I recruit my Bucket Babes carefully: they have to be naturally outgoing and persuasive, in a gentle, encouraging way. And when they ask what they should wear, I give them the style in...
View MoreAs I’m gearing up for more Smut Slams in Europe (get in touch if you want one in your city), I’m thinking again about the Smut Slam Code of Conduct and the idea of safe(r) space in performance contexts. Specifically I’m thinking about what safer space...
View MoreDo threesomes live up to the fantasy? Short answer: they can, but often don’t. Long answer: Ooh boy. Without any context or background knowledge—the anonymity of the Fuckbucket being mostly, but not entirely, a blessing—I do not know exactly what threesome fantasy we’re talking about here. Threesome fantasies...
View MoreWelcome to "From the Fuckbucket," my newest experiment in blog subseries, in which I respond more fully to anonymous questions deposited in the Fuckbucket at Smut Slams. If anyone thinks that Smut Slams are pure, unadulterated filth, just non-stop sexual sewage filling up the room, let me disabuse...
View MoreOpen mics notoriously happen anywhere that the host can fit them. I’m not even talking about the alcoves and broom closets of Edinburgh Fringe. I have been on multiple open mic shows—comedy, music, variety, whatever—that just unroll in the front room of a bar, dropping...
View More"The Smut Slam is] an important social tool – it demystifies sex, encourages us all to be open and honest, and is powerfully inclusive." [click to read the entire review]...
View MoreMC’ed by the outstanding Cameryn Moore, [Smut Slam] is an evening of storytelling by those who may not ordinarily share their stories, an open platform for non-professionals to engage first hand and with brutal honesty. [click to read the entire review]...
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