Me as the Phone Whore. (Photo credit: Joseph St. Marie) Nearly seven years ago, I pounded out a post about the weird, squicked-out responses that I got from people when they found out that I worked in phone sex. Those responses were...
View MoreI want to get more involved at kink events, but I'm too anxious and self-conscious. What can I do to ease myself in? It’s not clear from this question if today’s fuckbucketeer means involved, like, being on the senior prom committee or involved like getting their...
View MoreMy first fictional-character play, The Pretty One, hasn’t gotten many reviews because I haven’t shown it in many places, but the ones that it received were pretty fucking glowing AND audience response has been good. Both kinds of audiences mentioned that they found the characters...
View MoreHow does one get invited to/find out about a sex party? Step 1 Network your ass off, that is, make friends with people who might throw sex parties, or who know about sex parties. Don’t make friends with them only because they might be party-throwing- or knowing-about...
View MoreTwo years ago I was still writing, at length and in various places, how polyamory felt like the right path for me. I was busily engaged in setting up some kind of love network—the “sailor in every port†model, I called it—and was having a...
View MoreDo threesomes live up to the fantasy? Short answer: they can, but often don’t. Long answer: Ooh boy. Without any context or background knowledge—the anonymity of the Fuckbucket being mostly, but not entirely, a blessing—I do not know exactly what threesome fantasy we’re talking about here. Threesome fantasies...
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I got a note recently from an author of a post that I took apart for a Terrible Sex Tip post, the one about “reawakening your inner divine sexy goddess.†The author was really hurt about my critique, which covered, among other things, the non-specificity...
View MoreI have a new partner who is pretty shy during sex. She likes it to be dark and usually has her eyes closed. How can I encourage her to look at me/make eye contact? First of all, thank you for using the word "encourage"; that is...
View MoreA common question that I get about my time doing phone sex is, “Did you ever get stumped on a call?†That is, did I ever get a call for something that I knew nothing about or otherwise didn’t know how to handle? The answer, of...
View MoreWatching/being watched? Such a seemingly simple, seemingly binary question to pull out of the Fuckbucket a couple of weeks ago. In the heat of the moment, with fifty people laughing, I went straight for the answer that made the most immediate sense. Watched, of course. I...
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