ASK A PHONE WHORE: how often do you think your clients follow your instructions?
Did you insert that piece of chalk in your ass like I told you to?
Q. Aside from really improbable/ physically unlikely things you tell people to do, how often do you think your clients actually follow your instructions?
Okay, so the bit where I tell the guy to go get hormone treatments and gradually morph into a woman with a functioning vagina so she can go out and get knocked up by a black biker gang, aside from that sort of thing, you mean?
I think sometimes? (Definitely more often than I follow their instructions.)
To be clear, I don’t think they have to follow my instructions in order to have a satisfying phone sex experience. I mean, that’s the whole premise of phone sex and fantasies in the first place: for some people, words—and the ideas and mental images and psychologically induced physical sensations that come in their wake—are sufficient unto themselves.
Some callers do, though. I think. I can’t know for sure, but if not, their sound effects sure are realistic and I could probably learn a thing or two from them! One guy who I frequently dominate while he is in his office at work (lunch hour, locked door), I tell him to stick his fingers in his ass, report back to me about how dirty his fingers are, and then, regardless of how dirty they are, to lick them clean. If he says they are dirty, his voice definitely goes a little quavery and squicked-out and he will make very convincing gagging noises. Once or twice I have told him to stop because he legit sounded like he was going to throw up.
The callers who do follow my instructions fall into two categories:
- they already love to do the activity I am instructing them in—eating their own come is a common one like that—and my guiding the experience is just gravy. Delicious, come-flavored gravy…
- they have pretty thoroughly bought into the dominance/submission relationship that I am establishing over the phone, and are willing to go along with that.
If I want to give them the experience of successfully following directions, I set the bar pretty low. I give them things that are easier or lower-risk things to do, like spank their own ass (I can hear that). I think my panty boys probably are following my directions, when I tell them to stand in front of a mirror and admire themselves.
The people who don’t do what I say? Some might be testing out the idea of doing something, seeing how it feels in their own head. Or they might think they are actually going to, but then chicken out at the last moment and just say they did. (Also valid.)
I have a strong dominant streak—I know, so unexpected, right?—and I’d love to do work as a face-to-face dominatrix some day, so I’m always pleased when I think someone is following my directions. Conversely, I’m a little disappointed when they’ve asked me to direct them but I can tell that they aren’t obeying. Ultimately, though, it doesn’t matter whether they are or aren’t. I am getting paid to sound believable, and that includes sounding like I believe them.